How do I deal with the guilt of putting my mom in a nursing home when I promised her I never would?
The meaning of the word Guilt: “A feeling of worry or unhappiness that you have because you have done something wrong.” Focusing on the last part of that meaning may help you to put things in perspective. When you understand that what you want most is for your mom to have the best care and you realize now that you can’t do that at home anymore, then you have to understand that even though you made a promise to keep her home, home with the state she is in would be wrong. If you were to keep your promise you may put her in harms way and that would cause guilt.